Don’t just look for the right person – BECOME the right person
That was really what I needed to hear just then. Like most girls, I spend probably too much time fantasizing about my future husband. Some of the things I think about aren’t just fluff, though. I like to make mental lists about what his strengths and virtues must be. It’s not wrong to want to marry a great godly guy – after all, I wouldn’t want to marry some immature person with poor character.
But I do think we fall too often into the trap of thinking more about HIS spiritual state than our own.
Maybe these kinds of things are on your list of “future husband qualities”:
A godly leader
Willing to learn
Honest and open
Passionate about soul-winning
Gentle and sensitive
Devoted to his church
And the list could go on and on! Wouldn’t it be great to marry someone with these characteristics? Well, I firmly believe that these “dream guys” do exist. I would even go so far as to say that there are mature, spiritual men who are praying about marriage.
Do you think they are on their knees before God asking Him to send them a physically attractive spouse? How about an extremely talented girl who wows everyone around her?
No, I’m sure they are praying for a godly, submissive young lady. Someone who puts Christ first in her life and serves Him out of a joyful heart. Girls, are WE meeting the criteria?
Imagine how God could work if all young people, guys and girls alike, just followed Christ with all their hearts. What if, instead of looking at everyone around us, we made sure that our own lives were clean and surrendered? I know that’s what God desires.
I definitely don’t want to sound preachy, because I’m as guilty as anyone else. I need the Lord’s help every day!
Next time I pull out my mental list, I’m going to use it as a mirror of my own life. I don’t need to be a godly leader, but am I submissive to my authorities? Am I willing to learn and grow?
Only God knows when the right time will come to finally meet THE ONE. It may be tomorrow or it may not be for ten years. Until God clearly leads and directs, I know I want to be working on becoming the right person.