When I heard this question from a young friend at a party recently, I knew that it was time to get serious, gather my thoughts, and launch into a subject that’s been occupying my thoughts in a big way recently. Some of you who know our family well have no doubt been visiting this page regularly over the past week or so, wondering, “Why hasn’t she posted yet?!” My answer is that I frankly haven’t known where to begin such a post! I’ve been trying out beginnings and different ways of announcing this news, but none of them seemed quite adequate. But, at last, here goes:
Now, I know you have a lot of questions. Just pour a cup of coffee, sit back, and let me tell you just how this came to be.
Many of you remember Hannah from past posts—she’s the friend who was with me when I made my trip to Samoa in the summer of last year. If you don’t remember her, or you’re new on my blog, look up my May 2014 posts; I have a long article about her there, and also some pictures of us down through the years that are really making me smile now! Andrew, as you know, is my 20-month-younger brother, and we’ve always been very close. To have these two very special people in my life announce a relationship was a huge bombshell—especially since I was totally clueless!
Here’s the story: Andrew had long admired Hannah as a godly and talented young lady, but he never thought he would stand a chance with her. In some ways, they have very different personalities, and she is two years older (though I’ve noticed that the older you get, the more those differences tend to shrink!). And, last year, she was in Samoa, about as far around the globe from the US as one can get! But, in May, my Dad felt the Holy Spirit urging him to ask Andrew to pray about Hannah. Andrew was surprised, but agreed, and, after many hours of prayer, decided it that it was God’s Will to look into the matter, even if Hannah eventually said no. Eventually, they went to Pastor Royalty for guidance and counsel—and Pastor agreed as well that Dad should ask Hannah’s Dad, Mr. Peacock, if Andrew could enter into a courtship with Hannah when she came back from Samoa.
To be honest, my Dad thought Mr. Peacock would laugh him out of the room! But, instead, Mr. Peacock began to pray about the matter. He also started inviting Andrew up to help mow the church lawn, where they had many good talks about life and philosophies over the equipment. Andrew also had dinner at the Peacock house, where Mr. and Mrs. Peacock were able to ask him even more questions. Finally, Mr. Peacock told my Dad that he thought that a courtship between Andrew and Hannah could be God’s Will—if Hannah thought so!
Hannah returned from Samoa mid-December. Her Dad gave her time to recover from jet-lag and to travel to Illinois to see her sister’s new baby, and then told her on January 2nd. “Have you considered Andrew Perkins?” he asked. “Because he’s certainly considered you.” Hannah, though shocked, agreed to pray about Andrew. She read her Bible and sought God’s Will continually. At last she felt a peace about meeting with Andrew to discuss a possible courtship. They had a chaperoned dinner at a Mediterranean restaurant, during which they talked about everything that could possibly pertain to a relationship. Going home, Hannah continued to seek God’s Will. On January 21st, Hannah came to the realization that it was part of God’s plan that she and Andrew be together, and she agreed to enter into a courtship relationship. Andrew officially asked her to court on January 23rd.
That was the night I learned about it. Wow! That was a real shocker. I don’t think I actually believed Dad when he first told me. I kept asking, “Are you sure? Are you sure?” But now I’m definitely more than reconciled! For me, it was like looking at an impressionist painting—if you got too close, it didn’t make sense. The further away you get, you say, “Yup, those dots and swirls really do go together to make something beautiful!” I think I was so close to them both that I couldn’t see how well they go together.
They’ve been courting for a week and a half now, and I think both of them would say it’s been one of the craziest, best times of their lives. As Hannah said, “Faith definitely came before feelings. The feelings are there now, but I trusted God to direct me and there was a real peace in knowing that this relationship was in His Will.” She added, “I had set up a standard for the man I wanted to marry; it was a very high standard, probably an unrealistic one, but I said, “If he doesn’t have these qualities, I won’t marry him.” The more I get to know Andrew and the more I see his heart, I realize that I have gotten even more than I ever wanted.” Andrew told me, “Trusting God and your authorities will take you amazing places that you never thought you’d see.” They are both very happy getting to know each other in the security of their parents blessing and the knowledge that God planned this from the very beginning of time.
Please pray for them—that they would grow in their love for each other and in their knowledge of God’s Will in the details of their relationship.
Exciting times, these! Understand now why this was such a hard post to write?! J